back from LOBBYING for bills to help Trans folks
so I just came back from Washington DC at like midnight and it was an awesome opportunity to Lobby for 2 bills that will help the LGBT community tremendously and especially the trans folks :D I met so many awesome people of the spectrum and allies.
I met the Excecutive Director of NCTE and TPOCC which is the Trans People of Color Coalition, they are all volunteer based but amazing people bringing voices to those POC who are trans.
I admit I was walking on eggshells, in terms of talking because I didn’t know who identified as what. but I learned many things along the way.
it took the National Center for Transgender Equality 7 years to get the Social Security to change their policy on trans people. its crazy that there are organizations doing everything they can to ensure we can live a happy life with safety.
a bunch of people who went to Lobby day also came from the Philly trans conference. but I say it was an amazing experience, speaking, learning, and just meeting amazing people who does amazing work. and I never saw myself to be an activist but its pretty awesome feeling
iwill write more and post pictures laters :D
Anonymous asked: Hi. First I must say you're a huge inspiration to all short trainmen. :D Now I must ask how do you deal with being really short? I'm 5'0 and its one of those stupid superficial things that keeps me from transitioning. It's just that me being a girl and short is so comfortable. Everyone in my family including males are all below 5'4 and they get so much crap from it. I really don't know how they do it. Sigh I know I'm trans on the inside; I just don't have the courage to be trans on the outside.
thanks anon :3 that means a lot. well height does not hinder passing at all. imam bust that myth haha. but seriously I just deal with it, you know laugh it off, ill say “hey at least I can reach the bottom shelves” you know just joke around with my height. and since im of Asian ethnicity/race, I usually say stuff like how Asians are small guys anyway. I just try to find clothes that suit me. I do a lot of trials and errors. my younger sister shes 17 and shes like 5’4 haha.. my 9yr old sister is already up to my chin .. my mom is 4’8 n my dad is 6’2. so height varies, but it should not hinder your passing at all. there are a lot of short cis men also, being short just makes it a bit more difficult to find clothes. if you come off anon I can help you privately or on facebook if you prefer :3 I hope this helps
Leaving Vegas sooon!! hello Washington DC!!
Time for some trans buisness to get down
i wanna print out a picture of nicolas cage and take selfies with it all over DC
Anonymous asked: you know what. i've got a feeling you'll be able to go closer to unlocking yr "virginity level" in DC. ppl go sexually cray cray at conventions/meet ups like those. good luck. you'll need a lot of it.
lolololol you think so anon?? XD i highly doubt it, im extremely shy and i never ever kissed anyone :P
DON’T NEED SRS TO CHANGE GENDER ON SOCIAL SECURITY!
VICTORRRYYYYYYYYY! don’t need SRS to change gender on SS :D https://secure.ssa.gov/poms.nsf/lnx/0110212200
Today, the Social Security Admin. revised their policy making it clearer and easier for trans people to update the gender designation in their Social Security records.
“This seemingly minor technical improvement touches every aspect of our lives and will have a profound impact on changing the way transgender people live and work,” said NCTE Exec. Director Mara Keisling.
Join our community call on Wed. June 19th to learn more about what it means for Social Security account holders: http://bit.ly/11l4UGo
Download our new guide on the policy update:http://bit.ly/19zEOHl.
right now im just in a complicated situation.
im back with my parents, don’t ask why it was a mix of irrational fear, guilt and an ultimatum.
i’m looking into job corps if i can’t find a job here in las vegas
right now my parents refuse to give me back my cell phone so i have a temp phone that is only usable until the 24th of june. and i can’t drive my car
i don’t have a room, they turned my room into an office, and all my stuff either has been thrown away or packed up in boxes.
i have about 120$ from a mix of the money my uncle sent me and my money i already had. the lgbt center here in las vegas gave me 123$ for my trip to DC this coming weekend.
so i have about 240$ in my possession. not sure if i should splurge the 123$ in DC or use the 240 to get hormones. i’m not even sure how im going to get the hormones since i don’t have a ride, and really not allowed outside the house.
my parents said if i leave the house again im not allowed back home, so right now im trying to suck it up as much as i can and not try to do anything bad to gain my parents trust back. i’m looking for jobs, i’m looking at other options and etc. i really really do not want to leave my family but i also want to live my life.
so yea this is basically an update on my life, any advice is very much appreciated.
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looking through old year books
its just amazing how much can change within years. i was just looking at my high school year books. and damn ive became more open and happier till the end of my sr. year. and i guess it was apparent that i was “trans” since middle school but no one knew the term. i watched myself from someone who was a shy freshmen, with a Sr. who everyone looked up and respected. (i didnt come out till Sr. year because i was unaware of the word Trans)
the number of writings in my year books over the years grew tremendously. from “hey have a great summer” from freshmen year to comments like “hey Francis! you are an inspiration”,”you have my support and you will overcome your battles”, “you are a great role model to anyone”, “I look up to you”. and other comments that was positive. i never realized the impact i made in high school, opening doors for other trans people and anyone in the LGBTQ community,
just because i wasn’t afraid to speak my mind and be who i really am. i never realize the support i had when i was in high school until i looked back at my yearbook. even people i didn’t know wrote in my yearbook and wrote something positive, i even had to add extra pages because i had no room left :p but it was a journey all throughout high school from being a shy asian kid, to someone who had crazy asian hair and good fashion and someone who wasn’t afraid to be proud of being in the Band or the funniest short dude around.
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Anonymous asked: about your last: actually when I finally came out (to myself) as trans, I WANTED to be more like the stereotypical man. I always hated to be so emotional and could cry so easily. I caught myself thinking sexist thoughts. I had some experiences with women and just hated to be seen as one of them. I hate to have lived as a girl so many years and experienced stuff like menstruation, it doesn't make me understand them better and be more sensitive.
no it doesnt. menustration is just something your body does biologically. im sure men have something similar but you know, no one talks about it, or wet dream or wood inthe morning. see they can’t hide sometimes when they get an erection. thats just the things about biological bodies most people cant control. and i do want to be more of the steretoypical man. but a gentleman also, yea men are sexist but so are women. sexism is a double edge sword. i’m not a women, even with “living” as one for years before, i tried so hard to stay away that i dont even know what it was like to live like a “girl” i don’t remember all the “sensitive feelings”. i just have feelings like anyone else, and im sure dudes are sensitive to but show it in a different way. females are pegged to show their emotions way more than guys anyway. its not bad to be a stereotypical male, just gotta be respectful and don’t harm anyone. your thoughts can’t hurt others. but again people gotta deal with people because its life. sorry for just rambling anon
my 2 cents on Men and why it relates to FTM
ok. being all sociological here (i’ve only taken 1 semester of SOC 101 so bear with me) a lot of people seem to say why can’t Men be more equal or sensitive or something along the lines of becoming closer to females. here are a list of things i found online
-Societal expectations of masculinity
-Societal expectations to provide for women
-No long term reversible male birth control
-Men who are raped are more likely to remain silent and be dismissed or outright laughed at
-Unfair treatment in child custody battles
-No support for male victims of domestic abuse
Men for centuries have usually been in the same position since the beginning of time, it almost becomes an instinct for most to be hyper-masculine, the strongest, the bravest, an alpha dog, the protector, everything along the line of what makes a man sexist also.
Women on the other hand has not been in the same position forever, recently in last century or so women has won the right to vote, changed the opinions of others of how a women should be and realize that there are many different types.
So my point is being, yes a lot of men are “sexist” , “power hungry”, “dominant” but thats because all of history has shown men is supposed to be like that, and we have inserted subconciously into society so much that most men don’t know that they dont have to be the “alpha”, the “protector” its going to take a long time before both men and women and everyone in between to receive equal treatment. You can help by showing people its ok to be a man, and have a sensitive side or something along the side of the trait not being for males stereo typically. its going to take progress but calling all or some men sexist, is usually ignorance. and some do choose to be that way, thats just how a human works you cannot completely change the mind of those who has absorbed the information on how they were raise, their surroundings, the people they know, society mainstream media and etc. again my own opinions, i may be wrong, and if you have an opinion i would like to discuss other perspectives :)
and how it relates to FTM’s. it relates to transguys because a lot of people who were raised as female, often don’t want to be seen as the “stereotypical dude thats a douche” and usually gets butthurt from sexist comments from other dudes. most of the its them trying to be an alpha, and dont have any other way or form to be more assertive which counts for the stupid mistakes a lot of guys take.